18 August 2010

"to feel you don't belong in a world that's already so wrong"


Ever feel you don't belong in this era? (53)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-08 14:18 ID:LbWHCHMe

I feel like I don't belong here. Like I was born in the wrong era. People around me are on a different wavelength. I feel like I was supposed to be somewhere else doing something else living a different life.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-08 15:48 ID:tzssD+1l

I feel that way myself. Like I was born 100 years too early or too late. I just do not fit in to the current society.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-08 19:55 ID:cOzsTuBo

I feel I should have been born in Dinosaur times.

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4 Name: marucita : 2009-10-08 21:12 ID:KE1bWY9R

Yeah,it seems many feel like that(me included,of course) :)
I feel like I´m playing the same game than other people,but with different rules,which makes it impossible to come to an agreement. It´s so frustrating sometimes...feeling not understood at all.
But not fitting in can be considered a good sign: I mean, I really wouldn´t like to be like most people,to have their values,likes,etc. Being a weirdo isn´t that bad after all.
Like a friend says "we´re a big minority". So guys, let´s keep holding! :)

5 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-08 23:24 ID:vKV7Gf7T

I also feel like this. I think the feeling is similar to how a lot of people have an interest in the end of the world like maybe we all just want to be a part of something special unique or different from everyone else in an extreme way. Sadly if we were in a different time period we probably would feel the same as we do now.

6 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-09 04:54 ID:S8cL0/b1

I'd love it if I could get an arranged marriage.

7 Name: marucita : 2009-10-09 10:20 ID:KE1bWY9R

>5 I totally agree.I guess it´s not a matter of time period
>6 What would you get from an arranged marriage?. Imagine having to stand someone absolutely unbearable. I really see no benefit in that...I rather be alone.

8 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-09 22:21 ID:vUW3Axak

I share this sentiment.

9 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-09 23:46 ID:T8v+LLsL

No, There's no such thing as belonging in Eras. You were born here, now, and you couldn't have been born nowhere else and in no other time.

10 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-10 05:15 ID:DtFW5D1r

I may have been born in this era, but I would have been better off during another time. If I was born during another time, women would not accuse me of setting them back and being a sweet, nice, young lady wouldn't be considered such a bad thing like it is now.

11 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-11 18:12 ID:O+P11dEp

I can understand how you all feel. 1. This world is boreing. There is no adventure here. 2. Seems like everyone is almost the same. Could we have been ment for a different time ? Maybe we where all born in a different era and there was something that we left behind and just cant remember it. Who knows though. No one does. But I can tell you all that there is somethng out there.

12 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-14 19:25 ID:U/L2j6wW

Everybody wants to be the Pharaoh, but we'd all end up as slaves building his damn pyramid.
People romanticize olden days, but people had it BAD back them. Most people in the world still do in fact. We are the lucky billion, sheltered from brutal reality. There are more people in the world who have to walk barefoot, than there are who own shoes.
Olden times? THESE are the GOLDEN TIMES.
For the privileged billion, that is.

13 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-16 16:41 ID:Heaven

> ... but we'd all end up as slaves building his damn pyramid.
I think that would suit most people in this thread just fine.
When you're too busy being whipped and worked to death you have no time to consider stupid shit like 'oh this is the wrong era for me'.

14 Name: marucita : 2009-10-16 23:18 ID:KE1bWY9R

>13 It´s true many people have more difficulties than thinking in these topics..you need leisure time for doing that. But it´s pretty narrow-minded of you to think meditating about the deep meaning of life or issues connected with existence is shallow or stupid. The stupid one is who doesn´t think of that even have the time to do it,lol. Of course it´s easier to aboid those problems and play they don´t exist. But that brings serious consequences,worse than physical pain

15 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-17 18:33 ID:Heaven

I attack your central point thusly; with a verbose aimless harangue composed under the veil of a hangover:
You imply that considering the possibility of being born in the wrong time period is somehow deep or meaningful. And also that this is a problem that should not be ignored or else risk serious consequences.
It is not meaningful because it's a line of thought that leads to no useful solutions for everyday life.
As time travel more than likely does not exist or ever will exist, you will never end up in some romanticized era.
The closest you can get is immersing yourself in role playing or when computing becomes advanced enough to handle a convincing virtual world that's not populated with giant talking penises, dive right in. But this is just escapism and fantasy.
It's possible that virtual reality program actually already exists, and that you're in the matrix right now... If so, what are you going to do about it? Nothing, that's what.
Well, maybe a god or goddess plucked your embryonic self out of a dark-age uterus and switched it with your mother's true child. If so, what are you going to do about it? Nothing, that's what.
Of course, if you feel you should have been born in the stone age, there are still places on earth where people live like that. So go join them!
In the same vein of thought that >>12 mentioned, there are new-agers that believe in reincarnation. It seems a large number of these people were Cleopatra in a previous life. Bullshit, obviously they can't all have been Cleopatra. All sorts of people, from dead stupid to brilliantly intelligent, look at these people as narcissistic loons. As they should, the same way you'd look at one of the many people living right now that believe they are the second coming of Jesus.
Of course I don't say considering 'the deep meaning of life or issues connected with existence is shallow or stupid'. That's you putting words in my mouth.
The closest thing to meaningful questions posed by >>1 would be: Has modern technology and social development left us feeling disconnected with the natural world around us, and so each other? Is there some animal need in us to walk naked through the brush, sleep under the stars, and shit in the woods? If so, how can we satisfy this base instinct if we don't take measures to ensure conservation of woodlands, wetlands, rain forests, etc? How can we compassionately maintain an equilibrium of the human population while remaining human ourselves? How long do we have before the size of the human population is no longer sustainable? Can we consider Mars as a possible lifeboat for spaceship Earth?
But none of these are 'Personal Issues'.

16 Name: marucita : 2009-10-17 22:26 ID:KE1bWY9R

I admit you´re right in saying I made some assumptions about the OP´s question. And yes,it´s pretty weird and useless to think "what would have happened if...?". Anyway, I´ve seen it not like a way of creating shallow illusions but considering the feeling of not fitting in, especially about moral values. From this perspective, it can be useful to think in different possible worlds as a chance to make changes in this we´re living in, realizing how conventional almost everything is.
If not, it seems as we should definitely adjust to what we have now. The facts must be a start from a way projecting and generating variations.
As you see, our perspectives are really different. But I found your final questions very interesting. Hope your hangover is not longer there,lol. Greetings :)

17 Name: 15 : 2009-10-17 23:50 ID:lozXVGpK

Indeed, considering past and possible models when looking to improve our daily lives and community values is a very good way of looking at social change. As long as we remain objective and don't fall into the trap of looking at the past through rose-colored glasses, as the old man in the barber shop goes on about how much better off the world was when he was a boy.
I understand your perspective now, and I can empathize with your line of thought.

18 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-21 12:02 ID:FUvVHKy+

Seems like you need an in depth study of astrology. Those who think the newspaper column is astrology will go "haha". Those who know, know.
To pull up your own chart you need to know the time, and place of your birth.
You most likely have an opposition or other so called harsh configuration between one or more of your outer planets and your inner planets. This will cut you off from others in your generation because your viewpoint in that area, or in those situations will become alien to them.
Anyway my opinion is that there is no "wrong" time to be born. But the time, place, and parents you are born to will effect your situation. As is the amount and type of work you put into your own situation.
Plz dont hijack this guys thread to bitch at me about your astrology misconceptions. Thanks.

19 Name: sage : 2009-10-21 19:10 ID:4/9sYlsf

dude I'm sooooo different than most people i know too
i stand out in the rain and look upwards with my arms spread out just to show the world how unique i am

20 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-21 20:55 ID:Heaven

Hey, I do this too!

21 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-21 20:57 ID:Heaven

>Those who know, know.
>astrology misconceptions
I'm not judging you, don't act all smartysmarts in my face.

22 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-22 03:36 ID:lozXVGpK

I was standing out in the rain looking upwards with my arms spread out before it was cool.

23 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-26 19:06 ID:Ebj4JVEy

I feel as if I'm too stupid to be in this era. I have such trouble with even the simplest of tasks because they just seem too complex. English is the only thing I have ever been moderately good at, but I don't enjoy it and I'm too stupid to do anything else.

24 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-27 02:24 ID:Heaven

Don't worry man, I don't think you're going to have a problem finding completely unskilled jobs

25 Name: atheist : 2009-10-30 10:49 ID:pQNKDSpU

I think not belonging to this era is caused by your own mind. It has nothing to do with the outside world, as you form your own opinions and thoughts..
I do feel like i dont belong, but i have realized that it is not to do with the time, but my self.
I think that the level on which we think, is different and more advanced from the others, this is why we question things. By questioning everything one is not able to accept the present reality and is forced to be an outsider mentaly.
..This is just my own opinion.

26 Name: star : 2009-10-30 22:26 ID:KE1bWY9R

>25 Yes,maybe you´re right. Sometimes questioning that much becomes a problem to me,lol. I mean, sometimes I wish I could stop thinking

27 Name: W-roar man : 2009-10-31 02:35 ID:vbz3Jzl3

So.... what type of era and place would you think you'd fit in?
mine would probably be anywhere from 60's to 90's I think. and here in the U.S.

28 Name: SFields : 2009-11-13 16:16 ID:gi70mY5p

Interesting comments from all of you on this topic. I get the impression you are all fairly young. I am in my fifties but have had a feeling for quite some time that I belong to an earlier time, a specific time...early 1900s. I dont know why I feel that way. At first I thought it was because of my love of history and that I read a lot of history but I almost never have read about that time frame. My reading is all about ancient history but I am still drawn to and feel I could understand the people of the early 1900s. The feeling is so strong that I have thought about the whole reincarnation thing but it goes against everything I was raised to believe. I dont expect any answers from this, its just my two cents worth. I guess if any ideal result would come of this comment would be to find someone else drawn to the era to talk to.

29 Name: The bear : 2009-11-13 21:35 ID:46/EGVGy

man do you even know what a fucking wavelength is?
jesus go to school
fuck people like you piss me off
maybe if you socialized just a little more maybe you could actually get laid.

30 Name: SFields : 2009-11-14 00:11 ID:MWQH0I10

The Bear - dont be an ass

31 Name: Anonymous : 2009-11-14 06:11 ID:Heaven

So, how many boards do you plan to troll before going out and doing something useful? :)

32 Name: ms.noname : 2009-11-28 22:39 ID:RfWtJJWB

Guys! listen to this song :)
I wish I was a punk rocker - by Sandi Thom

33 Name: Anonymous : 2009-11-30 08:56 ID:Heaven

Am familiar with it. Liked it a lot when I was recovering from depression. Except for the retarded line "computers were still scary". They never bloody were, at least for me.

34 Name: ovo : 2009-12-07 22:52 ID:SOOpIItU

There is a word for this sensation. I was searching for it when I came across this board. It is really great to see so many others that feel like I do. And for all you haters on the board, I do not romanticize any particular era. I am pretty sure I would feel just as isolated and alien-like in any era. If you have never felt the sensation of not belonging to this time, then you truly have no idea how hard and painful it can be.

35 Name: Anonymous : 2009-12-08 07:27 ID:paw5YJFA

It's called adolescence. When you grow up you will realise that every adult around you understands what you are going through, because they have been through it themselves.

36 Name: Anonymous : 2009-12-08 14:35 ID:CJk1kWMN

I agree and disagree. It's more like a natural discontentment than simply adolescence, because I somehow doubt that most people feel the era particular. I know plenty who wished they had been born in a different era. The 00's, the 1890's, the 50's, it doesn't matter when, only that there is a feeling of discontent with their present. With culture and their place in it. It's a big world, filled with small people.
For me it's a little more subtle, as if I was born a tad bit early.

37 Name: Anonymous : 2009-12-23 20:37 ID:1Cj9d1O+

i dont feel like I belong to this society , it seems to me that the length people took trying to reach new goals and heights through science are being brought down mainly by under achievers who want to find a reason behind their existence through their blind following of religion , or sheer believe in their illogical perceptions about life, discrimination and utilization of poor people is too common , the world is running a mock and no one cares unless they get a cut out of it .

38 Name: Anonymous : 2009-12-24 06:41 ID:/+S0O5MG

You guys do realize that what is reflected in popular media isn't the whole of today's society, right? There are places that surely cater to your own perspective, you have just got to be willing to find them.

39 Name: Anonymous : 2009-12-25 01:18 ID:2M6/QpAB

If you guys want to live in a world with values like >>10 for instance, why don't you just move to a more conservative place?

40 Name: Globetrotter : 2009-12-28 01:21 ID:DxJyOaZd

I am myself curious only mildly about the future, not the past but I find thinking about the subject interesting. And would like to add a small tangent to the thread...
What about different cultures in the modern era? I have been very lucky in that I have been able to travel to different countries with vastly different cultures. I have seen that some aspects of cultures other than the one that I grew up with can feel more "suitable" for me. Of course my thoughts can be only misconceptions. There are so many environmental variables one can modify by choosing where one lives; such as how open people are, how people behave in bars and on the streets to strangers, do they talk much, does their country or city see a lot of tourists etc.
Here are some countries with very different cultures that I have had some experiences with, compare them in your head (stereotypes help): Canada, Scotland, France, Sweden, Syria, The Netherlands, Ukraine. The differences from city to city can also be massive. Edinburgh/Glasgow - Paris/Nice - New York/Los Angeles (no personal experience there) - you get my drift.
In that list alone there are vast differences in how the culture works and how people interact. It IS possible to influence your life experience by trying to find what culture suits for you. Yes, moving is extremely difficult and some cultures might not accept "outsiders" - I'm just trying to make a point. I myself want to move from my native country, but my research on where to settle is still very much unfinished.
Also, >>18 palmface.jpg

41 Name: Anonymous : 2010-01-31 19:57 ID:5Tbe/EUR

I totally believe that you can be born in the wrong era! People who think otherwise are too narrow minded. I also believe people can be born the wrong gender, have past lives e.c.t. The body is a mortal thing but the soul is free. Maybe our bodies have been brought into the right time but sometimes our souls belong else where. Its not a case of WANTING to live in another era just because you like the way they dress, the music, society e.c.t, its truly believing you should be there, sometimes for reasons you cannot truly understand or know yourself. To me, the only way I can describe it is like having the feeling of wanting to be home, as if you have been on holiday. Even though your holiday may have great, there is nothing like being home, because you belong there. You feel like the time era you believe you belong in is like home, but only you can't go home.
make any sense?

42 Name: Anonymous : 2010-02-09 03:28 ID:F+XtnuWE

Just the internet, total availability of information and instantaneous worldwide communications is enough that I would never want to live in another time than this.
Sometimes I do feel bored or lonely, but imagine what my life would be like if I lived in the 70s/80s and had no social life. Infinitely worse.

43 Name: Anonymous : 2010-02-25 04:22 ID:ZOUKvUZY

To me, the issue is not that I do not fit in. I'm what is stereotypically labeled as being "popular" among my friends and high school/etc. So I wouldn't necessarily want to avoid the life I have right now, but at the same time I desire a different one. Maybe not a different life so to speak, but a different experience. I guess what I'm trying to say is I want to become a spectator throughout history. It's difficult to describe what I'm trying to say, so it's most likely also difficult to interpret.

44 Name: Anonymous : 2010-03-24 06:31 ID:i0ZGfK8z

It's immaterial really. We have much better access to anything and everything from the 20th century now than I would have had living in, say, 1972. And since most people's idea of the past nowadays is derived from books, internet resources and the like, you are effectively wishing to transport yourself to a place and time that never really existed.

45 Name: Anonymous : 2010-03-24 21:55 ID:2e5QtOeD

...this. Simply because you lack a specific group of friends or colleagues you can discuss your interests with does not imply you're some how a woeful intellect born in the wrong era. Yes, thanks to media a lot of people are drones without a mind, but there are millions of academic, well educated, informed people as well.
In fact, I think in an age of instantaneous communication between individuals (thanks to the internet), the whole argument can be thrown out the window. It's extremely easy to connect with people, digitally or physically.

46 Name: Anonymous : 2010-03-31 17:09 ID:Ch9bjLM2

>>>>don't act all smarty-smarts
>>>>>>>>>green text

47 Name: Anonymous : 2010-04-04 01:40 ID:/aCuEDQI

I used to think this when I was younger... but then I started to "outgrow" it. The OP is more than likely confusing "era" with "culture" as this thread has discussed.

48 Name: Anonymous : 2010-04-04 13:51 ID:DaAZ1E3v

i think think we feel we dont belong in this time is because of reincarnation. after our previous selves died they did not transition over completely to their new life, thus giving us the feeling like we belon in a different era altogether.
i always get the feeling that i just won't be comfortable until i have a sword at my hip.
and what the hell happend to fighting your battles honourably? used to be you had to face your problems, now you can just kill them from 200 yards.

49 Name: Anonymous : 2010-05-23 00:09 ID:frr97nRc

I am one of the busiest people I know, yet unlike someone here implied is next to impossible, I have no trouble forming my own thoughts regardless of external demands. And just now sat down, and, out of curiousity, typed in "don't belong in this era"... because that's me... and got this thread. I do very well in this era... but have always... since childhood... simply felt alien amongst all the modern trappings and environments, wonderful and amazing though they be. "Home" to me is 100s of years ago. I get homesick a lot!! Nothing can be done about that. So, I do the best I can. And joined the SCA...!! Mr/Ms #48, that may also be your cup of... mead...! ;O)
Peace everyone!

50 Name: Anonymous : 2010-05-26 19:38 ID:fRGEJArD

I think I agree with the OP, I feel I do not belong, but not necessarily the era, but the society.
I feel as if I walk through life, job to job, making some employer rich, thinking of doing my own thing but live in a society that punishes success. It seems the more successful you are, the more likely you are to get sued.
It is not the era, but human society. It sucks.
What can I do about it? Nothing. I just go to work, raise my kid, try and be happy with my wife and just go from there. I am done trying to succeed. It is not worth it.

51 Name: metoo : 2010-06-13 10:01 ID:rLxOd8ma

ditto to all this.

52 Name: Anonymous : 2010-06-17 17:28 ID:3XhO0wMr

I have a lot of friends and I'm considered popular, but I have this feeling all the time. Sometimes it's like I'm drowning in it. It's not because I don't have friends...I actually have a lot. So I'm pretty sure it's legitimate...like not just something people who don't have a social life feel. Sometimes, for me, it gets so bad that I can't hang out or go to parties and when I'm at parties or with friends I just want to leave. I feel wretched. I just long to live in a simpler time maybe a few decades back like the 40s or 50s. Maybe I'm just kind of disgusted with society in general, but everything feels very artificial to me.

53 Name: Anonymous : 2010-06-21 21:25 ID:kt8xc0qv

Do what you want, be a trendsetter! That's what I try to do. Even if I wasn't the most popular person in High School, I found that people loved my ideas. If you feel like you're on a different wavelength than the rest of the people around you, don't let it bother you. Try to find people who are just as put off as you. If not, well... keep doing what you do. It can't hurt. Keeping that "woe is me I'm a dying breed" mentality will only bring you misery.

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